Following Through With Your Plans
Let’s be honest: We are great at keeping promises to other but when it comes to keeping promises to ourselves we suck. How many of the tasks you put on your To-Do-List are you actually doing? If you’re anything like me, not many. As perfectionists we like to plan. Planning is easy, it feels productive and it is not vulnerable. It’s safe.
How often do you say: I’ll be good this week. And then on Friday you start binging until Sunday night? Or just watch Netflix instead of working on your blog or business? I’ve done this pattern for years. End of the year I looked back and it felt like a year of good intentions. That’s all.
Not keeping your promises to yourself is the number 1 reason why people don’t progress.
It’s not the wrong strategy, it’s not any outer circumstances or timing. Stop making excuses. It’s you! It’s your lack of self-integrity. You have created a habit, probably over years of not keeping your promises. Your self-trust is small. Tiny. When you say you going to do something like sticking to a new routine how long are you actually following it? A few days, a week, a month? Eating healthy, gym routine, blogging routine, morning routine. You name it.
Where is your commitment?
Here is the word of the day. COMMITMENT. My personal arch nemesis for so many years. I’ve been avoiding commitment like the plague. Don’t get me wrong I’m great with commitment to others, my boyfriend, my job. When other’s count on me I’m there. But when it comes to commitment to myself, I’m as flaky as a good french croissant. Well I used to. I’ve been working hard on myself to improve my self-commitment.
Here is what commitment means:
Commitment is NOT when you feel like it or when you’re motivated or you have time or when it is easy and not scary. Commitment is NO MATTER WHAT. Commitment is outside of feelings. Feelings have no part in commitment. You want to know what else commitment is above off?
Motivation wears off after the first excitement is over. That’s when your self-commitment has to kick in. If you really understand that and practice it by creating a habit of committing then you are in constant control. You are in power. Not your feelings, not the circumstance, not motivation. YOU.
Committing to yourself builds self-trust and self-integrity.
When you do what you say you going to do that creates the power within yourself. If you don’t have self-trust your words are empty. They are meaningless. If you do what you say you do and follow through your words are powerful.
Perfectionists especially struggle with following through on their word, because commitment is vulnerable and difficult. It forces them to make a decision and take action. If perfectionists don’t see guaranteed success they tend to shy away from taking action, because experiencing failure is too scary. Committing puts pressure on perfectionists, because they will feel like they now need to take action perfectly or not at all.
In the following podcast episode I share a lot more about commitment and how it builds your confidence. I give you 6 tips on how to follow through with your plans and make that progress that you are craving.